I can only speak for Amber, but she should be compatible with those. I'd install the older NPCs - Chloe, Imoen Romance and maybe Tashia (although she can be considered 'new', because of the new version) - before the newer NPCs. I also recommend that you install the Fixpack before any other mods, but that's entirely up to you, of course. http://www.gibberlings3.net/bg2fixpack/
Flirt packs, banter packs, Crossmod, Fade and Keto are mods that I have played with Amber myself.
IRC there once was once an issue with Amber and Imoen romance, but IIRC is was sorted out (or it even wasn't an issue) If you search this forum it should come up.
I always install just the mods that I plan to use in the current run.
In the current version of the crossmod banters Amber has banters with these NPCs:
Thanks for the info Meira. I'll definitally install the fixpack and limit MODs to the ones I'll be playing in each run.